Repatterning thru relationship

On my quest to discover the best treatment methods for trauma, so many modalities have come up along the way. There are those who claim that the long path--namely, years of analysis-- will cure even the most troubled souls. Others say that psychoanalysis is outdated, and that somatic therapy is the way to go, because all that tension is held in the body. Evidence-based treatment methods purport that a structured approach keeps things on track and is "most effective".

Ultimately, the answer is love. We heal and grow by learning to repair in relationship with a safe, attuned other. No matter the modality or the approach, having a relationship that is perfectly imperfect allows people with attachment trauma to experience the process of misattunement, rupture, and repair, perhaps for the first time in their lives. This process is crucial to healing the self-blame, flagellation, and despair that plagues trauma survivors when they think they have "messed up" yet again.

More important than any type of therapy or analysis is the resonance or “fit” between therapist and client. With mutual trust and respect, positive shifts are most likely to occur.

Finding safety in connection is the pathway to repatterning thru relationship. All modalities are aiming to do the same thing: help people befriend their emotional experience and gain greater awareness of self in relationship to others. Regardless of what methods resonate with you, relationships can be incredibly healing or destructive, depending on your willingness to show up for the repairs.